God, Goodness and a few good men!

How does the title sound? Interesting ?? Naahhh ?? :(.... Philosophical ??? Yeah???? ;-)
Then be it! :) Its alrite to get a lil philosophical at times ;)
The fortnite gone by (not to forget yesterday) has been very realistic, very blunt,very stressful, very sudden and yes very tough! There are times when things go on just soo smoothly without even wanting or trying for... n then there are some other times when situations change and things worsen wen nothing really seems to have gone wrong! We are in 'it' before we even know it, helpless and blank, and all that we see around are praying lips, crossed fingers and a lot of hope and faith!
Hope and faith?? in who?? .. :) Surely in our Gods... in our good deeds and in the few good men around! :)
I saw my mum pray... i saw my mum in law do the same... i had my friends saying their lil prayers ...i saw a tiny boy requesting God to make my dad alright! I know of a lovely family who were praying there, with us, for my dad and also their!! Another family who offered 'namaz' for their lil girl admitted there!!
And, God truly is great!!! :-) He does answer all our prayers! Sooner or later but he does!! :) And if he doesnt then it is because he has something better in mind!! :-) I believe so!! Completely!!
As they say ' if God has got u to it, HE WILL take u through it!'

Wen we are in such situations, there invariably is some sort of hope, somewhere in the corner of our hearts, that we havent wished or done bad to anyone and so nothing bad will come our way! And why not?? Believe it or not, some small act or gesture of kindness done and forgotten ages ago is noted by our angel of deeds!! i was taught this in my school and i have believed in it since then!
Nice things do happen to nice people!!! :)

We may be tough, we may be strong bt without some good men around we cannot pull on! Friends and well wishers are always there! But these people are strangers and are still there!! People with truly 'mighty golden hearts'!!! :) For us they were the doctors and his staff.... doing your job is different.... and doing it with a lot of feeling is another story!!! I have nothing but the best of wishes for all of them and am sure their guardian angels have made a note of it!!! :-)
Nice people very much exist!!!! :)

God , Goodness and a few good men!! :-))))))
The awesome threesome!!! ;-)))))
Cheers!!!

Shooooo!!!!.... Am in a serious 'state' ;-)

Now all of you who happen to read tis post.... Do take it in the rite n lite sense! :)
As a tiny lil four year old i loved watching the 'nandi bail' with all the drumwallas n dancers saunter through our dadar lanes. Just as enjoyable was to see the 'govindas' form the pyramids n break the matkaas with balloons n water splashing from all sides n the latest of songs playing in the backgroung! :-)
With Ganesh Chaturthi nearing, in a matter of a week, the most amazing of ganesh pandals would come up on all sides wid real huge Ganesh murtis, long long queues outside the sarvajanik pandals, loud music n a very lively atmosphere! :-) I remember going to shivaji park every year n standing on the streets wid my brother n mum till late nite watchin the biggest of murtis n the most high profile mandals line up to bid adieu to their favourite Lord.
Navratri was something i really looked forward to! No 10pm deadline then!... Music.. dance.. good food.. friends n tons of funn!! :-) Managed picking up a few garba n dandiya steps n was overwhelmed the first time i completed one full round widout missing a single beat!! ;-)

I've been in the south for more than six years now. Beautiful place wid nice warm people bt like it or not.... it surely is a dull state! Just too much of seriousness everywhere! No processions, no celebrations.... festivals come n festivals go.... jus too many strict rituals to follow... people who r proud of their roots (n they should be :)) bt not very flexible personalities.. Intellects for sure, bt donno how to let themselves loose! :-( ... They prolly like to live the 'silent' way!!!
Am sure ther will be many saying tats their way of enjoyement n i totally agree! The definition of 'enjoyement' differs from person to person! But it somewhere does reflect the personality or the mindset of that individual or crowd! N surely the upper part of the country scores in this category- Lively.. fun loving... carefree :-)
This is what i have seen of people here in the past six years.... you may agree or disagree....
But you cant ignore the fact tat the 'fun' element does majorly lack here!!! :-( .. N its sometimes nice to accept the brighter side of something/somebody else n not hv ur reasons proved jus to keep ur ego unhurt :)
So here goes a 'CHEERS' to the more joyful n vibrant lot! :-)))


P.S- I have nothing against any southindian! ;) Infact love them n married to one!! :)
But its just My blog.... My voice!
CHEERS! :-)))

Where is the 'appreciation' ???

'Finding Flaws' seems to be the current mantra! Be it our maniac media, our 'in'sane politicians and leaders or the so called 'classes' of the crowd!!

What better example than the Common Wealth Games 2010 that India proudly hosts!!! With our reporters only capturing which wall collapsed and what needs to be done!!! Sad that not one news channel aired what a splendid 'village' is set up there in the midst of a lovely city!!

Its so very disappointing to watch the leaders talk abt who won n who lost in the Ayodhya verdict and preach Humanity and Peace by passing the most controversial of comments and provoking remarks!! Not a single violent incident anywhere in my country after the verdict!!! Isn't that good enough?? That clearly goes in to tell in bold that all that the masses want is 'PEACE'. Such a mature response by the crowd n yet no one to applaud! Not one leader to come out n say to them that their response and support is appreciated!

I know of someone in my workplace who is working round the clock to get the much awaited n much needed international 'tag'! Loaded with responsibilities n just trying to fit in as much possible in the few hours of a day!!! N all that this man gets in return is 'frowns' n jokes cracked on him!!!

Guess such people should first enroll for classes on 'moral values and ethics'!

Loop holes do exist here n there! But unless u appreciate the efforts that have gone in how can you expect someone to perform better?? n surely not with some derogatory remarks!!
ROME was not built in a day! And it was not built by one man!!!
You put in ur first step as a kid- you fall- you stand up again! N that also needs some encouragement from ur mom whose standing rite there cheering u up!!!

Appreciation can do a world of good!!
If only people have the time, to stop n notice the bright side,
n the sense to pat that man for the amount of work tat has gone inside!

Cheers to the efforts, Cheers to appreciation!!
Cheers to the smiles you see in reciprocation!! :-) :-)

Its NEVER Greener on the other side!!!!!

How i wish i was in ur shoes...... ur jus soo lucky ya...... its not like how its wid u!!!!
Take a break people!!!! If its not like this wid u, then work n change to make it like this!!! N stop believing tat am the chosen 'unlucky one!'.... wid oh so many problems in life!!!

Grass is never greener on the other side, if only u change the way u look at it!!! Nothing comes easy and to NOBODY! The smiles today are becoz of the efforts made yesterday!
So much to learn from soo many!! Each time i crib about something or am upset of things just not happening rite..... i come across somebody whose in a worse situation than me ..... and i find it surprising how they manage to pull out happy n all smooth! But a closer look and i know how 'smooth' its really been!!!!

I remember each time i cried as a kid, my dad just ignored me....... Ignored till i wiped my tears n realised tat i needed to change for the situation to change!!! N believe it or not...... this lesson has only n only fetched me smiles all along! No harm in bending for the good of all... no point in having an ego tat will take me no where... And no point in believing that everything about me is just soo jinxed!!! Its all in the mind! :)

My lesson for Life.... i have no clue of wat goes on in someone else's life.... so i better keep my mouth shut n not give the credit to her/his 'luck' ;-) N i dont hv the whole big world to worry about so i can very much make my lil world Green!!! :-) Its all in my hands!!! :-)

Believe it or not, its NEVER greener on the other side!!! N even if it is, its none of my business!!! :-)

CHEERS!!! :-)

Am ready!................ What next??? :-)

Gettin ON!! ... And happily so!! Just a fortnite ago i was this totally jobless gurl with a schedule tat would make anyone Jealous ;) Life sure has been a sprint for me!! Atleast the year gone by!!

Betrothal-Marriage-New home- someone's Wife n a daughter in law !!! From being this fun loving college student wid the 'chalta hai yaar' attitude to a Staff (senior resident) and Staff wife n now a Post graduate student!!!! Whoa!!! Lot many changes on the personal n professional front !!! :)

My LAST one month at home was full of chaos! With the D-day approachin, i had umpteen things to do!! And for the first time tis thought crossed my mind- ' Bunk the marriage! Dont wanna leave family n bombay!!! Wish i could go back in time n change things '.......... Did make a decision to marry n settle down but then i felt it was not as easy as i had thot!!

The first month after the wedlock was Funn!! :-) With me being the center of attraction at home n everywer i went.... Found it lil wierd n funny bt enjoyed being the VIP guest!! ;-)) The couple of months tat followed at home were a mixture of responsibilites... enjoyment... boredom... missin my people... settling down... gettin to knw my neighbourhood... overall, a pleasant experience! :) It was a fast fast life in bombay and Hubli is the other side of the coin! Both hv been great so far, ofcourse wid their share of grey patches! But i believe tats needed to make the big picture balanced!! :)

3months of workin n earnin wr jus soo good!! And before i knew it i was back to being a student!! Have seen life as a hostelite n now gettin a taste of wat it is like to start early frm home ... n not have your 'own' room to tk a nap inbetween n listen to ur frnds talk of wat they did last nite in the room n at d nescafe... n then rush bc home before its dark n quiet!!! It surely is a different take!!!

At times i find it amusin wid d way things keep changing in life!! So unpredictable n sometimes soo 'never thot of ' !!! And all the modifications the mind has to go thru so tat it doesn't lose out!!! Fair or unfair i really dont know! Bt gues tats how clock works!! Jus to make us realise tat its all abt 'Movin on' !! :) With a fair share of cribbin n whining! ;)

Its a mixed baggage! Be it Sunshine or the Storm....
Its ultimately all about just Happily GETTIN ON!!! :-) :-) :-)

Let go your sadness, Give up the plight;
Get on the right gear and Take flight!!!
CHEERS!!! :-)))))

A tale of two cities!

Am a 'pucca' bombayite!!! Be it the bombay attitude.... the people.... or just watever!! i absolutely LOVE my city!!!!! No big deal.... am sure each of us love the place we are brought up in!!!

I always thought tat people frm small towns are a lot nicer than the ones frm metros. Had no personal experience in this regard but just always thought so! Ofcourse the media did hv a share in building up this notion of mine.... since they almost always project the small town girl/boy to be the nice n genuine n the loyal one!!!
But, Enter: DHARWAD-HUBLI
and the belief changed... forever!!!

I remember one of my university examiner here (BDS) asked me during my final exam frm which place i was.... the moment i replied 'mumbai', he made a very disgusting face.... as if i came frm some Red Light Area!!!! I cud hv slapped him ther bt i had an exam to clear! Now i feel i should have!!!

I am yet to come across people more sick n cheap than the ones i hv seen here!! All that they know is to pass dirty remarks...drink all day n all nite... fall in the arms of girls with wives sittin at home... Brush up their vocab everyday with the latest of abuses... and come to work the nxt day with swollen eyes n smoky hair!!! Disgusting buggers!!!! And they hv all been the so-called 'small town' chaps!!!
Such qualified men n wat pathetic mentalities!!!!
And habits tat can put anyone to shame but them!!!!

Keeping it all in mind and waiting for my day to come!!! Just 3 years away frm my safety zone!!! :)
If they like mis-using their power then.... I very well know how to use it!!!

I may be coming frm a city wer the big bad world mainly resides..........
But am glad am not frm this city wer only the 'sick' men reside!!!!

P.S- There are 'exceptions' to every rule! ;-)

Hanged by the neck until DEATH!!!!!!!!!!!! Is this the only way out??? ???

Last week saw yet another man line up for the gallows. The press, the people.. all lauded this court verdict. Infact some of the families who lost their loved ones in the Mumbai terror attacks were mum.... the death penalty to Ajmal Amir Kasab was not something they badly wanted..... rather it made not much of a difference to them! But, the country rejoiced for many felt Kasab deserves to die!! And prolly a youth tomorrow will think twice before taking such a horrendous step!

Seems fair if thought this way. But, i have something different to say! I was kind of shocked to read the quotes of people frm arnd the globe demanding Kasab's death! Do we really really have any right to kill somebody like that??? True, that Kasab's act deserves no mercy.... but is the death penalty the right verdict?? I knw very little about the rules of the law but 'Life imprisonment' would have been more appropriate! Just my personal voice! The torture in spending the rest of the life behind bars is a lot more! He is a demon to have killed a hundred people but aren't we falling into the same category by killing him???

And how does Kasab's death give relief to the families who have lost someone in the attacks??? Will the dead get back to life??? Will the sorrow of not having your mum/dad/bro/friend around reduce even one bit??? Sounds extremely strange and senseless to me!

The guilty MUST be punished but 'Blood for Blood' i feel, is a very insane and inhuman way of punishing!!!

I even read someone's response on giving kasab life imprisonment which said 'why waste the nation's money on Kasab's food and clothing and security?' In that case, why waste India's money on any prisoner..... they have all done wrong at some point!!!.... murders.. robberies... rapes... Why have prisons and keep them jailed??? Give yourself a break from this attitude!!! To stand up on that gallow and count your few last breaths can be devastating to no extent!! And, standing up 'for' such a verdict is nothing but an epitome of cruelty!!!

I know many would still disagree, and without dis-respecting anyone's opinion, I personally, strongly condemn the 'death penalty' given to Ajmal Kasab!!!! Wish i had the authority to change it! Somewer it DOES make KILLERS of us!!!

The law cannot please one and all. It has to cater to justice, no matter who is benefited!!
But, the guilty can be punished and justice can still prevail in a more human way!!

Stuck up here?????

There are times when abhijit tells me stories of his childhood in karad, a small town in maharashtra. some funny... some notorious n some as crazy as him ;-)

Few of the most treasured times for him revolve around that place n the people there he grew up with.

Today, after being in dharwad for more than 5 years, I can all but say, i had never enjoyed life as much as i did here!!! And, for the record, "dharwad is not a very great place to be in! "

With my closest of pals gettin hitched and most of them plannin to have their homes set up in the metros of India and Overseas ( wish u gals loads of good times ahead!!! :-))), it is not rare tat am asked 'why hubli of all places?? ..after havin lived in mumbai for so long?' ..'Dont u feel stuck up here???'

Am so so bored of these irritating pests!!! Grow up!!! and think wise!!!!

Gues one feels stuck up wen she/he is frustrated, unhappy, helpless n hopeless!!

And, am faar from all these!!! :-))) I was NOT forced into this marriage u know!!!!!! ;-D

5 yrs in SDM were like a dream and the dream only continues!! :)...

Glad I knew what i wanted. And did not attach too much importance to the not so important aspects! Its the people you laugh n cry with who create magical moments n the sorroundings are just a bonus!! :)

All tat we want is to be happy! And, HUBLI very well serves the purpose!!! :-)))

So, all of you who feel am stuck up here- Dont worry much abt me! ;)

Wish u many happy moments ahead!! :-)

Cheers!!! :-) :-) :-)

Break Free...................

Jump off a cliff, dive into the sea,

And scream n yell in ecstasy!!!!!!!

Come out on the roads and dance on the streets,

N hop n trip when the rain Gods are pleased! :-)

Bash up a hooligan as the crowd stands still,

And see my name flash in the gossip mills ;-)

Shoot the moron who makes life hell,

For a sober, nice chap living happily in his shell.

Get on the power seat and feel the heat,

N set the systen rite... the toughest feat!!! :(

Fly up high above the tallest peak,

With no frills attached, just watch the world in peace.:)

Run off with my love to No Man's Land,

Laugh our hearts out sitting on the sand :-)))

Meet my 1st crush n let him know,

this pretty, young damsel fell for him long long ago! ;-)))

Make a lovely wish, sow a humane act,

And watch the two change to something so apt!!!

Do things i sooo want to but they cross the 'practical' mark always,

For once, Break Free n give a damn to the world....

And just live it My Way!!! :-) :-) :-)

CHEERS!!! :)

Stop the Murky Saga!!!

Imagine yourself to be surrounded by a huge, mad crowd throwing at u some very wild, wierd, mindless and even the most personal of questions.. the paparazzi capturing your every lil emotion and your every small act.. N yet expecting you to be calm n composed through it all!! Ridiculous isn't it???

Thats briefly our Maniac Media. True that with the 'celebrity' tag comes the media glare but shouldn't there be a limit to this sick glare???

Take for instance the Sania-shoaib-ayesha story or for that matter even Tiger Woods.. how inquisitive can the media get about somebody else's life and try n knw every inch of it!!! Disgusting! For Heaven's sake, SPARE THEM!! They will come out in open with it wen they feel the need! Till thn let the Law n the people concerned handle it!! Why don't they just stick to their job of reporting only what is necessary?? Every person has had some flings, some good n some grey stories in life.... its very unethical to make it the nation's breaking news merely coz he/she is a public figure!!!

Really sad that such a dignified job of News Reporting and Editing has now come down to projecting every issue n manipulating every statement with only n only TRP's in mind!! Hope the people soon realise this rising media menace and hit back!!

STOP THIS MURKY SAGA!!!

Help Yourself :)

Have you ever done things you dislike doing and are coaxed to do..... or something you wouldn't have done otherwise???

I never really did.... Stubborn to the T!!! Though i do remember a couple of occasions when i have done things unwillingly simply cuz i didn't want to upset or hurt the person concerned.
Forcing is something i am dead against.... be it with regard to just anything!! And when i am forced to do or not do certain things, it blows my top..... i get irritated... angry... sometimes very very rude!

Yes, one good thing is ,i don't raise my voice or scream or yell or fight..... don't find anything more foolish than that! But there have been a couple of instances when i guess i was a bit too harsh in my response! :-( Didn't like it. Wanted to change.... can't always change the situation... and not always will the other person understand my view point (may be wrong- may be right!)

So there! came up with my 'self help' mantra... ;)..... Any time am so totally pissed and ready to blast anyone who shows up in front.... i just dis-connect myself for a couple of minutes... get involved in some other stuff.... preferably stay away frm others.... wonder n ponder n think n re-think...listen to a song i enjoy listenin to ;).... n wen i do get bc to wer i left, my response is a lot milder! :).... may sound silly to you but it works for me!! :-)

One lesson i learnt is... " I.. ME.. MYSELF.. MY LIFE.. MY DREAMS.. MY NOTIONS.. WHO THE HELL CARES ATTITUDE..." don't always make a happy ending!! Be it out of force or compulsion... one adjustment here n there at times and with a smile can create wonders! :))

Helping myself.... trying to correct my flaws and come up with solutions that eventually make everyone around me and 'me' reasonably happy :) Living... Learning... n Liking it! :)

CHEERS!!! :)))

Its all about FAITH!!

I have this conversation with God every single day .... very private.. very personal.... its my way of what is called 'praying'. Am not the sort who regularly goes to temples to worship the Deity but i respect and worship HIM in my own way!

I have this friend , a very sweet girl, who prays to her 'Allah' religiously.

Am sure each of us do it in our strong way!

Recently heard a few educated minds talk on Religion. 'Religion' as per the dictionary goes is- the belief in and worship of a superhuman controlling power esp a personal God or Gods.

So does it really matter who or which Lord i worship and how???

Shouldn't it completely be an individual choice especially in a country like ours that claims to be the biggest 'free-will' nation!

We don't choose our religion, we are born with it. And, even if we do at a later stage why should it raise so many eyebrows?? All religions preach Goodness and humanity. A particular religion may appeal to me more than the others... Nothing so gravely wrong in it!!

A good man, at the end of the day ,is a Good man! Why judge him on aspects so irrelevant!

Sad that something as simple and private as 'religion' is today the cause of terror and a million innocent lives! What is even more unfortunate is that most of us who claim to be the sensible, educated lot somewhere draw a line between them.

High time we understand that a 'prayer' offered in any which language, attire or way is nothing but the most sincere form of that individual's faith.... faith in God and his Religion.

And the least we can or rather should do is RESPECT it!!

I soo sincerely hope that a day will come when people look for their child a bride/groom who is not a hindu or muslim bt just someone very nice!! :) I definitely will..when the time comes!! :)

Be it 'bindi' or 'hijab'......... Christ or Allah...... Lets just all live in peace and have nothing but goodwill for everyone around!! :)..... That is what the Gods really want us to do!! :))

CHEERS!!! :)

Enough to make my DAY!!! :)))

:-) :-) :-) Very very happy today!

For in my hands is my "first pay!!!" :)

Not a sum thats loaded with many-a-zeroes,

But surely something worth a million dollar smile!! :-D

Just enough to go out n eat wat i like ;)

and to buy me something thats pretty and nice!!

Feels good to have some dough which you can finally call your own,

Hehe ..am richer today .. for my bank balance has grown!! :-))

God bless the gentleman whom i call my 'boss',

So he can keep giving me some of it n soon i hit a jackpot!! ;)

For now, am happy... happy with the cheque i have.

A novel way...... that made my Day!!! :-) :-) :-)

CHEERS!!! :)

Fragmented Dreams...

A well made movie leaves quite an impact!! Was watching 'Taare Zameen Par' last night.. am sure none of us has given it a miss! The punch line of the movie says "Every child is special."

Just made me think.... how very sad and devastating it must be to the parents who are born with mentally challenged or differently abled children! After all, all that one wishes for is to have a baby whose away from all the problems.... healthy in every way!

No joy for sure can match 'parenthood'. To see your child grow at every phase till birth and hold him in your arms must be overwhelming and equally shattering would be to see her/him not respond normally!!!

From teaching them to stand to bringing them to a stage where they can walk independently long after their loved ones are gone.... understand every word they whisper... every thought they try to convey.... a hundred worries... a hundred hurdles.... and still be patient through it all!!!

Wonder how can God be so unrewarding to someone!!

.. sometimes for no fault of theirs and sometimes for reasons beyond them!!...

A Big Bow to all these special stars and to their parents..... HATS OFF!!!

Changing Times.... or may be Changing with Time!! ;-)

-From Dadar to Dharwad and now all settled in Hubli!

-My Karnataka registered no which i thought would go in the bin no sooner i was done from here now fills in my permanent 'call me at' column!

-Still trying to catch up with the kannada conversations that go on at home... sometimes i get them right n sometimes i pick up the 'highlights'...;)

-My 8am alarm has now changed arms to 6:30 am! :(..

-I enjoy cooking which used to be like once-in-6months!!... n now there are more of enjoyment activities than before! ;)

-Loved the weekends in bombay.... malls.. multiplexes.. mega hotels... n now i go off from home for weekend get-a-ways!!

From NO responsibilities to MORE responsibilities... 4 months up and Life s changed starting from the 'name'!!!

And, believe it or not.. its been just as good as biting on a piece of cake!!! :-)))

Not every change sounds or looks good but guess all that it takes to 'click' is the rite attitude!!

CHEERS!!! :)))))))))

My first post ... Cheers!!! :)

Cheers to every helping hand,

Cheers to every kind man!

Cheers to a thoughtful act,

Cheers to a genuine pat!

Cheers to the efforts, Cheers to appreciation,

Cheers to the happiness you see in reciprocation!

Cheers to every penny earned,

Cheers to every lesson learned!

Cheers to some good food,

Cheers to a bad mood! ;-)

Cheers to every good that crops through an ugly day,

Cheers to every friend who shows up smiling everyday! :)

Cheers to a call across the miles,

Cheers to the infectious smiles!! :-) :-) :-)

Cheers to the dreams you and i have,

And cheers to the hopes you and i give!!!

Easier making than spoiling someone's day!!! :)

CHEERS!!! :)