How important is it to be a part of the 'in' circle?? To use what the market/ media says is selling like hot cakes... to wear and show off what Page 3 claims to be 'the flavour' of the season... to do or not do something because 'its the trend these days' ......... a question that crossed my mind when a friend commented in public on my gold and old fashioned finger ring... "kya yaar anuja ... kaun pehenta hai aaj kal aisa?"... The smile on my face was just lost somewhere. Not because my friend didn't like what i was wearing but because 10 other people had a look at it after that and laughed!! I felt bad. I felt embarrassed. A couple of minutes later i quietly took off my ring and put it back in my purse.I know appearance matters! I can't be wearing something obnoxious and then sulk that people make fun of me. But i do believe that i can't be doing a particular thing just because my social circuit demands i do it! Somewhere there is this 'personal choice and comfort' that should have an upper hand!
Something similar happened on Occasion 2, when a friend commented that i have really put on weight after marriage... yet again a public remark " tu bas aisehi phoolti jayegi??" Humiliating when people laughed and said " Anuja size zero ka zamana hai... aunty banane ka nahin"...I know i have!!! Am such a foodie!!! Yes i should be fitter but you can't kill me for it!!!
Am back to using the finger ring (which was actually gifted to me by my in-laws:)) I shouldn't have removed it then! :(... If i do something then its because it is important to me and i believe in it!! And i should not be ashamed of it!! Whether or not, its turning heads and fishing compliments, is secondary!!!
Lesson i learnt: Respect your own taste and choice! And more so, somebody elses!!
Its important to change with time. Its good to change with time.... but without losing that 'I' factor!
Its cool to be 'In'! But its too cool to be '(I)n' :)))
Cheers to everything that you do because YOU want to! :)
2 comments:
OMG! I'm shocked to hear people say such insensitive stuff. With me, I give it right back, which has earned me the title 'Haazir Jawab"
I keep remembering the saying, "It is better to be hated for who you are, than be loved for someone you are not"
Cheers!
Hey! Its good to speak your mind! I believe it. I follow it. But i also believe that on most occasions what is important is not what you say, but how you say it. Anything and everything can be conveyed in a manner that will do less harm if not any good. Its easy to be arrogant and impulsive and talk what comes to mind and believe that 'am not fake. i am like this- love me or hate me'. Not being that way does not put someone in the category of 'trying to be what they are not' So i differ from the saying that you always remember.
After all, two minds never think alike! ;) Thanks for sharing your view! Cheers!
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